Wednesday, July 25, 2018


Sometimes when we go on vacation (as seen in the picture above), we just want to be in a serene space, enjoy the scenery and feel like a million bucks. Note: This article is NOT about the people I've met during our family vacations. I guess you can say we've been lucky not to run into anyone that fits the categories below.
For some people, their vacations do not always go according to plan because there are always a set of persons who indirectly affect your pleasurable trip. Whether it is at your final destination or on your way there, these people are sure to mar your vacation experience. 
They are:
1. Unsupervised kids - I get it, parenting is hard and even parents need a break from their children on a vacay. But having screaming children stuck with you on a long ride from Calabar to Afi Mountain or running around the Omu resort unchecked is just awful. It is frustrating to other guests when it seems the parents are oblivious to the nuisance their children create for others. If you can; intervene. You can call the parent’s attention to it or engage/caution the children if they will listen.
2. Loud angry guests - Bad service is hard to ignore and some establishments lack a standard of excellence. This type of tourists expect a lot and would do anything to get what they paid for. Sometimes rather than take customer’s complaints as valid, some staff turn a deaf ear or clap back. If you can, step in and diffuse the situation by mediating. Harsh words can be cruel, so try not to reciprocate whatever negative energy or words being thrown around. Soft words turn away wrath. If an employee got berated, call them aside and encourage them with a positive affirmation.
3. Attention seekers - These want to show off their skills, other times, it’s just who they are. They could have a loud personality or maybe they are self-centred. It’s either they are acting up or they may be inappropriately dressed like wearing bralletes with bum shorts on a Rainforest Safari. There is no point giving in to their charade, just avoid them if you can. Get away from any vicinity where they are by taking a walk or fixing an excursion trip out of the resort. If you are stuck with them on a trip to your destination, just ignore them.
4. Excessive PDA Couple - some people have no problem being touchy-feely in public. But it can get uncomfortable for others around. A little external romance is okay, like holding hands, a light peck, those are nice. But being pressed to a corner smooching in the pool while others are swimming or on Tarkwa Bay beach when families with kids are also hanging out there is too much. If you notice it is making you and others uncomfortable and also think, “Get a Room”, best to let a staff at the resort call them to order. Otherwise, excuse yourself from that vicinity.
5. Space Hoarders - there is nothing more annoying than to get to any place like Epe Resort and see a bunch of unused chairs with items on it when there is no chair for you to sit on. You could politely ask the hoarders who are keeping seats if someone is using it. Sometimes, they may just be propping their bags on the chair when the chair is actually free. But other times, they may be keeping it for people who may not show up or use it. To avoid causing trouble, you can ask the resort staff for extra seats.
6. Quarrelling companions - These people may not necessarily be shouting at each other but the shade in their conversation can be distracting especially if you are within earshot from them. Other times, it is the passive aggression they exhibit that might affect the mood of everyone around them. The key is to avoid being anywhere they are. If they are next door to you and their verbal conflict is affecting your peace of mind, lodge a complaint at the front desk so a staff of the resort can tell them to keep the noise down.
7. The photo freaks - Taking pictures is cool, but having people push you aside just to take a picture isn’t. Photo freaks don’t care who they are inconveniencing as long as they get the shots they want. They may even be oblivious to you waiting for them to move out the way to take your picture. It is particularly annoying if you are in front of a monument/structure when this happens like Kajuru Castle. If they are using a tablet that is blocking your view, politely ask them to lower their hands, let them know they are in the way. In case that doesn’t work, ask the tour guide for alternate places with a better view. If they are using a selfie stick, find a different angle where they won’t show and snap your picture. But if they are in a prime stop and taking too long with their shots, let go and photobomb them.
If you ever find yourself becoming one of these terrible of tourists, stop and reconsider how it makes those around you feel. The whole point of identifying behaviours that can ruin other people’s vacation is to learn to be considerate of others. Strive to be someone whose company is enjoyable. 
Do you have a story to share about a nuisance encountered during any of your vacation? Do share…

Friday, June 1, 2018

Upcoming New Projects... anticipate!

Whenever a writer goes silent on social media, chances are that something is being created. Or it could mean they are just lazy and too busy watching films and reading books to comment on anything. Regardless, I want to apologise to my readers for the long silence on my blog. I tried writing something in March. It was a movie review on Black Panther but then everyone was doing it and the movie kept getting bigger so I abandoned ship.

Anyway, it's a new month (June) and a great time to start something wonderful. 

During my three months hiatus, I was very busy working on several projects. I also spoke at different training sessions to people on being better writers and transforming organisational values into a culture. Sorry, there are no pictures to show for it *weeping*.

I was also privileged to anchor services with a church audience of over 300 persons. I read a 2003 poem by Carroll Sonny on The Empowered Woman during the last mother's day celebration in May. 

But as we face the end of the first half of the year, I can't help but want to share some things I have been up to with you. Here is an excerpt from my Novel, Freakshow, which is still a work in progress:

"She rushed to the bathroom, turned on the hot water. Steam filled the bathroom. It was one thing to have a recurrent nightmare but one that evolves in its storytelling, she had never seen. One that felt so real that she felt pain where she was touched. It definitely required some help in being explained. She put on all the lights in the house. Ran through her things and Patience’s CD collection looking for any Christian song to play. She found an old Don Moen CD, slotted it in, raised the volume so it could be heard everywhere in the house as it played. She left the bathroom door slightly ajar and drew the shower blinds.
When she pulled back the shower curtain, she saw the mirror fogged with steam and the words HELP ME inscribed on it. Now she was losing it. The mindless fear was gone. What she felt now was sheer panic flooding her veins. Someone was in here! Someone wrote this! She ran out of the bathroom, holding back a stifled scream. She put on her clothes. Grab a bag and head for the door. Preye turned the door handle but it wouldn’t budge. She shook it, twisting the key in all directions but the door would not open. Preye banged the door hard, hoping the neighbours would hear and come to her aid. Still nothing.
She stood in the parlour, clutching her handbag to her chest. Not sure what she should do. Don Moen’s voice coed from the speakers. Her body trembled. Preye felt someone walk behind her. She turned around and saw no one. Then she sat on the chair, pulled her leg off the floor and held it to her chest. Tears helplessly found their way to her jawline navigating through her checks. Easy now, steady your thoughts. There is electricity. Gospel music is playing. Calm yourself down, she thought.
“Nothing is happening; it is all in your head,” she said to herself.  
After a few minutes, she felt her body relax. There was nothing to fear. All she had to do was calmly go back to the door and open it. She put her legs on the ground. Before she could take a step, a hand gripped it. She looked down. She could visibly see the dead looking fingers wrapped around her ankle. Goosebumps rippled down her arms. She could hardly move, fear loomed around her like a noxious cloud. She heard it in a distant.
A shrill cry.
It tore at her vocal chords.
As the sound reached her ears, she snapped her eyes open. Brought her head back down to see more hands appear and grab both her legs. She fell face down to the ground; hitting her head so hard that she passed out.
Even in the darkness, the horror refused to end." 

I hope it made your day. To see the other things I have been working on, like my Tourism Column at the Connect Nigeria Info Portal, visit here.
The articles there can help you plan an amazing family vacation any time of the year. They are filled with the latest news of who is doing what when and it can also inform you on all things travel and tourism.  

My Facebook pages have also been active for those who are interested. you can visit them too: my writers' page and my blog's page.
Meanwhile, some people have been clamouring for me to release another book soon. but all great things take time. So quenching the thirst, I put out a suspense story to whet your appetite along with another non-fiction book titled,  Parents and Children.

Don't worry, I have your best interest at heart always. If you still haven't gotten a copy of my books, The Quilt and Being Mummy and Me, I have just one question to ask you, what are you waiting for?

Friday, February 16, 2018

My first time at Connect Nigeria’s eBusiness Fair (#CNBizFair) 2018

A business fair is usually an opportunity for exhibitors to showcase their products and make some sales from those who attend the fair. The first time I witnessed a fair, I entered as an exhibitor. I didn’t make the kind of money I hoped for but was glad for the opportunity to showcase my brand and what I’ve done in my career over the years. So when I had to write up on the fairs organised by Connect Nigeria, I was thrilled. For the first time, I was an observer reporting what had happened. You can read those articles here.

The more I wrote about the growth of the #CNBizfair, the more I wanted to attend the program. Yeah, it was in Lagos, and I am based in Benin city. So it meant I had to travel. It was a hard choice because, at that time, one of my sons was ill. But with the green light from my husband, I finally boarded a bus last minute and headed to Lagos. Although I went late, I was fortunate to be right on time because registration for attendees was still ongoing. With over 20,000 registered participants, 1 hour 30mins was not enough to make sure everyone present was accounted for.

The thing I loved most about the #CNBizfair from my research on it was the discussion segments. Over the years, they had invited a certain calibre of CEOs thriving in the business space in Nigeria and the knowledge shared during the forums were outstanding. This year, although some of the guest speakers were recurrent invitees, it was a pleasure for the majority of first-timers to hear what they had to say. I learned so much from the discussions and went gaga for days after telling all who cared to listen to the things I learned.

We took a break, and I went around to get something to eat and visit the exhibition area. Oh, did I mention the event was held at Eko Hotels and Suite at Victoria Island, Lagos? I was amazed at how spacious the place was. Now I understood why they had been hosting the event there for years as the crowd kept on increasing. There was so much on display. If I had gone with the intention of spending money, I would have bought a lot. A particular stand caught my eye, and the CEO was very friendly and fun to engage with. Her Adire collection was most impressive. I just had to get a picture of her and her stand for posterity sake.

As I was heading back to the raffle draw segment to see what was going on there and get my Thank U card to join the Connect Nigeria Business club, I found out the discussion segment had begun again and former minister of Aviation and former FRSC boss, Osita Chidoka was speaking. I hurried back and never left that hall until the end of the event at 7:15 pm. I often wondered if the two parts of the fair were concurrently running because it was hard to navigate the exhibition hall and still be in the room for the discussion forum.

People were allowed to ask questions, and the panellists were terrific. I can’t write all I learned but here are some things I garnered from this annual fair:

The program began with Eyo Bassey, the CEO of Payporte. He said 5the ebusiness scene in Nigeria changes very fast so we should be ready to innovate, iterate with the trends, get the right associations and advice. He reminded us of the insatiable need of the Nigerian market and how we should not be discouraged if it felt like everyone was doing the business we wanted to start up. Although he took a jab at the banking sector, claiming it will be redundant in 20years time, his train of thought for startups was continued by Mrs Akpan Ikhoabasi, Sales Manager, Air France - KLM. She spoke on the need to carve a niche for your business by meeting a particular demand or meeting a need uniquely. She said, “People don’t buy products, they by the benefits of the products whether it is real or perceived.”

Speaking of meeting needs, Mrs Ngozi Princewill Utchay, the CEO Artelier Lifestyle Consultants in Abuja, continued that train of thought by explaining how proper customer service is the lifeblood of any business. The more you treat customers right, the more loyal they become. On the issue of loyal customers, Simeon Ononobi, the Co-Founder Thank U and CEO of SimplePay Payment Gateway, explained how important it was to collect customers’ data to track their purchasing cycle for targeted marketing purposes. The analytics will help business owners know when to expect clients and better plan.

It is impossible to cover the wealth of knowledge shared in an 8 hour period with over 12 speakers in one article. That’s why I referred you to the connect Nigeria site to read up more. You can also visit their YouTube channel to watch the panellist discussions live for yourself. But the things I will never forget was Mabel George (VP Business Development at Sigma Pensions)’s charge that we don’t have to wait till we are old to start a pension fund. As soon as you start earning, get one. Mr Adeyinka Fisher (State Coordinator at SMEDAN) helped me understand that I run a Microenterprise. Not all businesses are SME by specific indices, and this affects the ease at which companies can apply for funding from organisations. Eric Edokpa (Principal Consultant Fintech at Ventures and Allied Solutions (FVAS), NEXTZON) echoed a concept that I started the year with, the need for collaboration with others when building your platform. 


Tale Alimi (CEO Tale Alimi Global) pointed out that we need to change our mindset to succeed in business and my younger sister’s friend Tolu Onyeacholam (Product Manager eTranzact) gave a classic example using the rural area as a money spinner. I didn’t go there with the aim of making money yet I was able to sell The Quilt at the event. If you love knowledge, don’t plan to miss the next #CNBizFair.

Thursday, January 4, 2018

12 Days of Christmastide

Have you ever wondered why it is called twelve days of Christmas? We usually make the countdown start before Christmas day and end on Christmas day, but that really isn't the way the !2 days of Christmas is supposed to be. I know it is kinda weird me writing about Christmas in the new year, especially when I did not turn in an article for December for my faithful readers. Stick with me guys, I am going somewhere.

In the church calendar, twelve days of Christmas is actually called Christmastide and it begins after Christmas, not before. The reason is, the spirit of the season should span beyond just three days of celebration - Christmas Eve, Christmas day and boxing day. This Christmastide season is supposed to end on the 6th of January.

Although the festivities seem over, it is vital that we do not rush to forget the reason for the season, take down our decorations or change our festive mood. The joy of Christmas for Christians is supposed to be a lifestyle, not just an annual event. Most people associate January with being financially broke, work filled and boring. This shouldn't be the case which is why keeping the spirit of Christmas in January and beyond is essential.

So what is the spirit of Christmas that we are not supposed to forget in a hurry?

1. Hope - When the baby Jesus was born, the Israelites sought a messiah, one who would free them from the oppression of the Romans. It doesn't matter what Jesus' real mission was, at that point, just hearing news of his birth filled them with a hope that things would change one day. No matter how dreary the situation of life feels right now, there is always a chance that things will get better. Live with expectancy. No condition is permanent, and as long as you decide you can change anything within your power to control, your story will always change.

2. Joy - When Mary gave birth, the host of angels in heaven came down to earth rejoicing. They were so happy that the world of men was about to change forever through the life of a son of Man who was God incarnate. (let's not get into a debate here guys, just stick with me). Your days may be as mundane as that of the shepherds in the field that night, but let the joy that emanates from having hope for a better tomorrow, keep your hearts warm. Always see the positive side of life and be joyful for what tomorrow might bring.

3. Love - Joseph stuck by his pregnant fiancee and loved the baby Jesus as his own. Doing all he could to be a great dad. Not to mention the love God had for humanity that he decided to come in human form and dwell amongst men so he can be acquainted with our sorrows. Love is the driving force behind the whole story of Jesus birth and Death and love should be our driving force. Let the love that prompts sharing and giving during the Christmas season to neighbours and strangers be near our hearts always. Look for ways to show love to those who you know cannot pay you back and be a blessing to those who you know despitefully use and abuse you. Again I am not saying be a doormat, I am saying let love be the motive behind your actions to your fellow human beings.

4. Peace - The angels brought great tidings of peace on earth. News that God is not angry with men and he has come to bridge the gap between us and demonstrate his love in person. Likewise, let your heart be at peace. The universe isn't trying to get you. It's cause and effect in play. Sow the right seeds and reap a bountiful reward. Live at peace with all men, strive to be at peace with yourself and your decisions. Let peace be the umpire of your soul, guarding you and your choices in life. Seek peace in all you do.

All these values are typified in the celebration of the birth of our Lord Jesus but it should not end with the season. Let 's take the sentiments that make Christmas exceedingly unique and share it throughout the year. Don't say I told you to eat like a pig all year round because you ate a feast during Christmas. Lol. Remember, in all things be moderate.

Thursday, November 9, 2017

4 Ways To Improve Sexual Intimacy With Your Spouse

Raising kids, dealing with work stress or the pressure to have children are just a few of the things that can kill your sexual intimacy.

For guys, prolonged absence of sex is hard not just because of the desire for sexual release which is higher than that of women, but because subconsciously, men tie their masculinity to sex. Soon their confidence gets eroded with the constant rejections from their wives causing self-doubt. When self-doubt sets in, it rubs off on other areas of their lives. Hence the need for someone other than their wives to help restore their bruised ego by providing sex even though they still love and are proud of their wives.

But do you know women also eventually start feeling the same way as guys do when their husbands stop desiring them, stops asking for sex, or showing any form of affection towards them as well? That’s why they get drawn to the first guy that fills that void created by their husbands.

So before you start looking outside your home and forsaking your marital vows, try these steps:

1. Whisper sweet nothings.

It is always important to talk to your spouse. When you want sex, say so but also talk about the feelings you have. Compliment each other as often as you can, share words of affirmation whenever your spouse needs it. If they are looking sexy (i.e. sexually desirable), tell them.

Share with each other the desires both of you inspire in each other. You can send a sex text (also known as sexting). Serenade each other with love songs if your vocals are on point. If you can’t sing, play a track and dedicate it to your spouse. Send a radio request if you know she will hear it. Don’t always wait till you guys are at home to whisper sweet nothings to your spouse.

SEE ALSO: Intimacy in marriage after having kids written by me for from

2. Be hands-on.

Touch as a love language is about those little physical contacts that create a sense of closeness without the commitment of sex. They include holding hands when you walk, a light peck on the cheek when your spouse comes in from the office or a hug just before they go to work.

Give a massage; cuddle not only when you want to have sex but regularly. You can cuddle with your clothes on sometimes and without the clothes but try very hard to delay the desire for intercourse in those moments of physical closeness. Burst out some ‘magic mike’ moves/strip tease if you can. That way you build a longing for sex that will come more naturally the next time you are together.

3. Have date nights.

If going out to dine, going to the cinema alone or renting a hotel room will break your bank, you can have a date night at home. Fix it for a time when the kids are asleep if you don’t have a babysitter.

Once in a while, turned off the TV when you are alone. Sometimes watching a movie can take away from being together. Take turns in planning Date night. Date night could be once a week or once in two weeks or even once a month. Let it not be only for birthdays and wedding anniversaries you plan a special time out.

Bring out the candles, prepare a special meal or buy take out if you prefer, sit and enjoy each other’s company. If organising it is burdensome and you know any group organising a couples timeout or get-away, sign up and join them. Maximise the opportunities you have to create special memories and moments alone with your spouse.

4. Update your sexual archives.

There is a place of mental preparedness when it comes to issues relating to sex. Once your mind is well primed, getting down to business will be much easier. Read up on all things sex and share with your spouse what you discovered. Let curiosity drive your passion.

Guys, treat her like a lady and a queen. Ladies, treat him like the king that he is. As your intimacy grows, even age won’t be able to stop you both from being sexually intimate.

Monday, October 30, 2017

World Anaesthesia Day: What you need to know

On the 16th October, while we foodies were celebrating World Food Day and discussing how to make food available for those most in need, the medical society was celebrating World Anaesthesia Day. It’s a day set aside to educate the masses on the importance of that sphere of medical science to their health care.

 Who is an anesthesiologist and what makes their work so important? Anaesthesiologists are physicians who give anaesthesia before, during, or after surgery or other medical procedures. Anaesthetics are used to block out pain or the memory of pain, leading to painless medical procedures. It also acts as a muscle relaxant in extreme cases and is capable of inducing a mild state of unconsciousness in patients.

 The practice began aeons ago, but the use of modern anaesthesia can be traced back to 1849 when a Boston dentist (William T.G. Morgan) used it successfully in a public demonstration on a patient at Massachusetts General Hospital. Before then people used to be told to bite down on cloths or other items when in extreme pain; some were even instructed to inhale substances with anaesthetic properties during procedures. But over time, it has been discovered that the body reacts differently(regarding side effects) to anaesthesia that is inhaled and that which is given intravenously. Although the dosage given can be responsible for that, it would seem the latter is the preferred method for human beings.

 An anesthesiologist is just as important to any medical procedure - especially those of a surgical nature - as the consultant or surgeons. The use of anaesthesia involves not only the administration of the drug before surgery but also monitoring of the patient’s vitals with machines during and after the surgery. It also includes watching out to reverse any unexpected adverse effect of the anaesthesia on the patient during or after the surgery. It’s not a-one-shoe-fits-all kind of practice because there are different areas of specialisation within anesthesiology. There is pain management, paediatric anesthesiology, or critical care medicine. As with any medical practice, it takes a total of 12-13 years to be a pro in this field.

I’m sure you are wondering how this information is useful to us Nigerians. If you’ve ever been on an operating table, you can relate to the importance of anaesthesiologists. In Nigeria, the tale of a two-year-old child died during a simple procedure because there was no anesthesiologist present after the surgery, have once made the headlines. Another regular occurrence is the inability to book someone in for a medical procedure because there was no confirmed report on how soon an anesthesiologist would be available. For such similar stories, the most prevalent question has been where did the anesthesiologist go?

The truth is, there is a shortage of anesthesiologists in the world. Most times in Nigeria, the available ones a booked back to back by different hospitals or health institutions. That is not to say I approve of a doctor leaving the theatre for any reason when the patient is on the operating table. My point is, such occurrences would be less frequent if we had sufficient doctors practising anesthesiology. For instance, in Benin City, there are only 52 anesthesiologists catering to over 5 million people. This problem is not unique to Nigeria because, in Liverpool, there are about 50 anaesthesiologists and trainees who serve over 150, 000 people in their community.

The implication of this is that many people find themselves in surgery without a certified anesthesiologist and when a complication arises, these makeshift arrangements cause a crisis. We may not all be knowledgeable in the medical field, but what we can do is, as patients, we can insist on having qualified health care providers. As parents, when our children studying medicine want to specialise, we can discuss the different medical fields with them and point them in the direction of anaesthesiology where there is a high demand for doctors with a range of employment options. Because an anesthesiologist can work with dentists, gynaecologists and surgeons during invasive surgeries, labour/delivery, cosmetic or eye surgeries, etc.

That is why this year’s celebration was tagged Count Me In. We all have a role to play in ensuring we get adequate health care. Once people are aware of any need, potential solutions begin to emerge. Until I met an anesthesiologist, I was blissfully unaware of why surgeries were planned around the availability of one. I’ve done my role in informing you. Now do yours in spreading this information.

Thursday, September 28, 2017

Book Lovers Alley

It is not news that I have a Book Review show titled Book Lovers Alley on Youtube's Nimabox Live Channel, a new edutainment TV channel online. One of the reasons I could not say no to this show when it was presented to me was the fact that I needed to reawaken my love for books. Yes, I know, it happens to me too. As a reader, I had gotten sloppy; I found myself reading information shared on social media pages and reading strictly for research purposes to write more articles for other sites where I am a contributing writer. Not to mention trying to increase book sales for my books - The Quilt and Being Mummy and Me as well as being a mother and a wife.

I wanted a compelling reason to justify spending hours lost in reading a good book and basking in the satisfaction of fulfilment that I'm sharpening my fiction writing skills by studying the works of other writers. Not that I need one anyway, my career sort of requires that I do. Lol. I guess it is the pressure to earn passive and active income that makes me feel guilty for spending a lot of time reading. Sometimes everyone needs that extra push to get them back in a corner with a book. As writers, the push is to update ourselves by reading other authors' works. And just like everything else in life, reading has to be deliberate. Life throws so much at us that if we don't force or encourage ourselves to read, then we will lose a part of ourselves that enables us to be improved and open minded.

Another reason this show is important besides giving you that much-needed push to read, is that it helps you decide what books to read. That way you don't spend cash buying a book whose storyline you don't like or whose author's philosophy you don't share. That will totally make you feel like you wasted your cash. By watching this show, you can get value for your money on books you purchase. So far, the books I have shared on the Show are books I read years ago and the more we shoot, the more books I am forced to read. The show covers a wide variety of books from different categories and genre. We have Non-Fiction book reviews on Career/Personal development books and Fiction books from Children's Books to Fantasy, Young Adult, Romance, Thriller, etc. We also review comics and graphic novels on the show too.

So if you have missed any of the shows since it started running, follow these links to find your way back:

Episode 1 - Jeremy Fisher (Children's Book) and A Simple Plan (Thriller)

Episode 2 - Star Dust (Fantasy, Book turned into movie)

Episode 3 - 26 Big Ideas (Personal Development, Non-Fiction)

Episode 4 - Yellow Yellow (Drama, Fiction based on the challenges faced in Nigeria's Niger Delta region)

Episode 5 - Purpose Driven Life (Personal Development, Non-Fiction)

Episode 6 - Nigerian Comics (Fiction)

And Season one isn't done yet. By Season two, we are going to have author interviews and a much-rounded package for you. So stick with us and don't go anywhere. Invite your friends who are fellow book lovers to watch the show and share the videos from YouTube to your social media handles so more people can benefit from it also. If you have books you'd like me to review, you can suggest it and if you are a writer and you'd like me to discuss your book on the show, feel free to reach out to me on any of my social media platforms - Twitter, Facebook and Instagram. But please don't take offence if I can't put your book on the show, I reserve the right to say no because book reading is time intensive. And remember, I do have other jobs to tend to outside the show.

Bottom line, take out time and drop by the Youtube channel and Subscribe so you can get notifications on when to watch the different episodes of my show. It is one great way to renew your desire to read.


Sometimes when we go on vacation (as seen in the picture above), we just want to be in a serene space, enjoy the scenery and feel like ...